Weekly Love Letters

Last week we passed the summer solstice here in the northern hemisphere, my favorite time of year. We are also moving into my favorite month (JULY!) where I will celebrate 14 years of sobriety on the first of July, 36 years of life on the sixth of July and my beautiful baby girl will celebrate…

I believe relationships are our greatest teachers for growth, healing and transformation. ALL relationships, not just romantic. The relationship we have with ourselves, relationships with friends and family and especially the relationship we have with our children offer us so much teaching.  You’ve heard me say it 100 times – no one teaches us how…

Have I ever mentioned how much I LOVE summer? I was born in July (and love that my baby was too) and this week in June is a big one for Andrew and I.  We met on June 11, 2014 and got married on June 17, 2017. For us, the day we met is a…

One of the most overused phrases on the internet is “emotionally unavailable.” I think it IS important to understand what to look out for, and we certainly do need to learn what a healthy relationship looks like.  I wanted to point out some clear signs of emotional unavailability to be aware of (both in others…

There is no reason for ghosting to happen… at all. The reason it happens is because so many people are still afraid to own their truth, allow other people to have their feelings, and not protect their self-image. It isn’t great to get rejected, but it’s REALLY NOT GREAT to ghost. If you’re dating, you’re…

Happy Wednesday lover! Do you have fun Memorial Day plans? I am headed to a retreat next week, for 10 days and baby Madelynne is coming with me 🙂 It’s been a lot to prepare, as you can imagine and feeling really grateful that I get to do this with her.  For 11 years I…

One of the biggest things holding women back is the fear of being assertive and direct. I have watched countless “dating tips” essentially continue to perpetuate the fear that women can “scare someone away” and then leaving women to feel powerless around what they can create in love.  My work is restoring your power, confidence…

Great communication is not just about the words that are used but the energy behind them. Great communication is also about a resourced and calm nervous system because we all know we can say things we don’t mean when we are stressed, tired, or hungry! Andrew and I have a hunger scale in our house…

Hollywood and love songs tell us all you need is love when it comes to choosing the right partner for you.  For many years all it took for me was that someone else was interested. I didn’t pay attention to anything else. Women have been taught to keep the bar very low around what they…

The greatest predictor of relationship happiness and health is secure attachment. However, secure attachment doesn’t mean perfect.  Thanks to social media, we have access to so much relationship information, but it’s a little bit of a blessing and a curse. I am grateful attachment is now in the minds of so many people because it…