Love Letter: What if needing approval isn’t a bad thing? (4/5/23)

There is nothing like the delight of knowing someone is excited to see you. Am I right?!

When I see my daughter Madelynne, my whole body shines for her, and I can’t help but smile. When my husband walks into the room, my heart still skips a beat. When I see my friends, I can’t wait to hear what’s going on in their world and support them!

And, of course, there’s nothing like the way my pup Leela greets me 😍

Why are we afraid of acknowledging how much we need to know that we matter to people? 
Your midweek mantra is, “I approve of myself and surround myself with people who celebrate me.”

We never stop being the children that need acceptance, attention, and approval. 

We never stop needing to know that we matter to the people who love us and that they delight in our existence! 

Approval gets such a bad rep these days, but it’s not a problem. 

It’s not a problem to need it; it’s a problem if you betray yourself to get it. 

It’s a problem if you are still behaving like a child doing the things you learned to try and get approval from your parents. 

It’s a problem if you pretend to be someone you’re not in order to get it. 

It’s a problem if you’re chasing someone who can’t give it to you! 

Approval is acceptance. I believe self-love starts with acceptance. Acceptance of who we are, what we need, and what matters to us. 

The path of love starts there. 

The path of love starts with believing that who you are is enough, that what you need is possible to receive, and that the truest expression of your soul is exactly the north star guide to your aligned match. 

We can only find a healthy partnership if we believe that who we are is enough and if we have to hide who we are in order to keep someone around. 

The best love is when people are at their fullest expression! 

Secure attachment is delighting in who someone is and not wanting to change them. 

May you surround yourself with people, not just romantic partnerships, but friendships that delight in you, friendships that support the truest expression of yourself, friendships that say – I’m proud of you, I love who you are, I accept who you are. I am delighted you exist.

Check out The New Truth podcast episode from this week, “How to Stop Obsessing Over Your Ex.” If you are hooked on someone from your past and are having a hard time moving forward in your life, this episode is for you! Catherine and Kate share tips and perspective shifts on how to break free from obsession, so you can heal your heart and reconnect with yourself again. 

I love you,