Love Letter: 4 signs you’re not open to love (12/7/22)

I am headed to Boston tomorrow for my sister’s wedding. Turns out this year has been a big one for my family! Andrew and I had a baby, and both of my sisters got married. 

After 11 years of doing this work, plus my healing journey, there are many things I am clear on when it comes to love and attracting partnership. One of which is that intimacy can only exist with an open heart. Lots of women THINK they are open, but they are not

Your midweek mantra is, “I am open when I know how to close. My boundaries, self-respect, and vulnerability are what support my magnetism.”

Many women THINK they are “open” to love simply because they WANT it, but I’m here to tell you, that’s not enough. 

You aren’t open if you are…

❌ full of judgment of others (especially when on a date!)

❌ full of SELF-judgment 

❌ quick to make others wrong for not showing up the way you think they should 

❌ giving everyone a “chance” and not being discerning about what you want

You aren’t open if you control your love life and are full of ideas on how it “should” go or what should have happened already. 

Openness is a state of vulnerability, a willingness to be surprised, and the courage to be present and curious. 

Openness is about being truly available – available to be hurt AND available to be loved. That’s the paradox. 

Openness does not mean you give a million men a chance. It means you are a clear channel for sharing your needs, boundaries, and desires and can walk away from anyone who isn’t aligned with you. 

Check out The New Truth podcast episode from this week, where Kate and I warn you about a toxic man that results in a very funky dynamic – listen to “BEWARE this relationship dynamic.” This dynamic keeps you stuck and small and is why many women find themselves unhappy in a relationship. Whether you’re single, dating, or in a relationship, listen to steer clear of this! 

I love you,