Love Letter: A Truth About Great Love (8/3/22)

Happy Wednesday! Last week’s email was pre-written and pre-scheduled, so it didn’t include a very important announcement… SHE’S HERE 😍

Friday the 22nd was my daughter’s due date, and she joined our family a few days early on Tuesday, July 19th. Madelynne is a cancer sun (just like her mama!), and she and I are doing well. Thank you so much for your notes of congratulations and love celebrating our baby – they mean so much to my husband and me. We’re so grateful and so happy that she’s here and healthy. 

While we won’t be sharing photos of her on social media, I will share more soon about the gifts her birth offered me as I continue to be transformed by motherhood. Today’s love letter is allllll about how love is in the little things, and it couldn’t be more true for me right now, especially as my husband and I are navigating parenthood!

Your midweek mantra is, “I am worthy and deserving of consistent, caring Love. This is how I love myself as well.”

Are you someone who has fallen for grand gestures around love?

I remember being so smitten with many things my ex-boyfriends would do. They would do grand gestures infrequently, keeping me hooked and waiting for the next big thing. It took learning that love is found in the LITTLE THINGS to help me find the love that lasts. This was one of the many things I continue to love about my husband. 

We have been taught that love is intensity, passion, and grandiosity, thanks to movies and TV shows. We chase the “high” of big gestures of someone professing their love. 

This sets people up for the rollercoaster ride of a relationship in which day-to-day life is difficult, but then there’s a grand gesture that comes through every once in a while, and they stay hooked. People can also get hooked on the grandiosity of words and promises, never paying attention to the fact that the person may never follow through. 

I want you to focus on the day-to-day. 

I want you to know that the right partner for you will pay attention, they’ll listen, and they’ll remember the things you like and what matters to you. 

The little things like…

❤️ how you like your coffee in the morning

❤️ expressions of appreciation DAILY

❤️ little notes left by your bed

❤️ a hug at the end of a hard day

❤️ spending time together without your phones

❤️ snuggles in the morning rather than rushing out of bed

❤️ whispering “I’m here” or “I’ve got your back” right when you need it

These are the things that matter, the things that make a huge difference for us in our lives; this is what it means to be truly loved. And this is why it matters so much to be yourself fully on a date, to let someone see you, and to learn the art of getting to know someone else fully. 

For me, to love is to CARE. 

When you care about someone, you care about their heart. 

I’m not talking about careTAKING in which you do everything for them., I’m talking about generosity, thoughtfulness, and willingness to give love in how they feel loved and to do it consistently. 

Relationships fall apart when we start closing our hearts and withholding and sometimes get lazy. 

Remember what a difference it makes to let your partner know you are thinking of them, that you’re listening and paying attention, and WAIT for the one who loves you in the little ways every day. 

You’ve heard my story – that I transformed my life by having a series of terrible relationships to attract the love of my life, and we’ve now been together for 8 years. I can barely explain the thoughtfulness and care Andrew has consistently offered me, ESPECIALLY now with our new baby. I am so loved and cared for. 

I believe love is the promise of infinite possibility and that you can create a new story for yourself no matter what you have been through. 

Check out The New Truth podcast episode from this week, “The Top Myths About Relationships Holding You Back from Real Love.” We highlight the core myths and lies we’ve told ourselves about relationships that keep people from experiencing the depth of intimacy and connection possible in partnership. If you are IN a relationship right now, this episode is for you! Find out if these myths are in the way and what you can do to transform your partnership from the inside out. 

I love you,